Sam, thats not true in the majority of the cases. the female of the species is the one who reproduces, she makes the eggs. if these eggs are haploid, they must be clonal of her, and the haploid is the female, and the diploid is a result of mating, and may be male or female. there's a species of lizard (i forget which one) which is entirely female, and reproduce by parthenogenesis. they're all female because the oocytes are clonal of the original female.
the best thing: not all sexual inheritance is like it is in humans. in humans, you receive an XX and you're female, or an XY and you're male. in birds, this is the opposite, the XY makes female. or in some lizards, there are no males at all!