Now now, folks, let's try and stay constructive. I suggest playing some Barry White.
Aaron, everything I have read, heard, and experienced indicates that the males are often much readier to breed than the females, and that the final decision lies with the lady. If she does not accept, nothing happens. In addition, although my axolotls have had many, many clutches, I have never witnessed the "push and shove" axolotls are reported to perform. The real indicator is whether or not you get eggs, and if they are to come, they will come witin 24 hours, so there isn't much wait involved.
Good luck to you (and your little Romeo).
-Eva